Has the Obsession for Success Made Us a Bit Heartless?

When our first thoughts and actions revolve around securing the bag, gaining status, and proving our worth to others, we risk losing sight of what truly matters: faith, family and service.

Mar 07, 2025

When the grind gets the best of us, we become monsters.

What has dulled or distracted Western hearts to love thoroughly, feel deeply, and connect profoundly with another? Could the constant hustle—the need to make tons of money, becoming successful and proving one’s worthiness have something to do with it? Here’s what I think:

The last thing any of us want is to see ourselves as failures in life—especially in today’s time where men and women can be and do whatever they wish. So, we push to reach the top, we push for financial autonomy as the mere thought of destitution is unsettling.

Today’s rat race culture will teach you many things, like

how to earn 100k+ a year
how to climb the corporate ladder
how to build a personal brand
how to stay relevant, and
how to compete for what you want.

But what it will not teach you is how to love, care, and create beautiful memories with your loved ones. It will not teach you how to be kind, present or feminine.

I’m not saying that a woman shouldn’t aspire to earn a living or attain a career, the issue is that when this drive or career-driven mindset gets the best of women (i.e., when the grind becomes your life priority and overwhelms you), we sometimes forget ourselves.

When our first thoughts and actions revolve around securing the bag, gaining status, and proving to others the reasons for our existence, we risk losing sight of what truly matters: our faith in God, family, and service.

The 30-year-old forgets her childhood dreams of one day being madly in love and married to her favorite love.
The mother didn’t witness her son’s first walk; the lady at the daycare does.
The Christian gives time for everything except God.

The truth is that the endless climb and obsession to acquire independence, status, fame, and all other material things we do not have could be costing our hearts and femininity.

I’m fully aware that the push to become 'boss babes' and the 'I don’t need no man' type of girl has become so ingrained in women that many of us begin to believe our inherent worth rests in fancy titles and the amount of money we bring home. However, achieving these accolades cannot hide what most modern women are experiencing these days: loneliness, sadness, confusion, a loss of passion, and a loss of romance—like the Romeo & Juliet type.

So I encourage you to not allow an obsession for success get the best of you. Don’t get so consumed by it that you forget to think of the wellbeing of others. Don’t be so disillusioned that you forget that lasting security is found in God.

Don’t get too captivated that you forget how to love.

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